amazing <3 <3
Glory to God!
amazing <3 <3
Glory to God!
Hi ladies :)
I’m leaving for a missions trip tomorrow with my church (and a bunch of young middle schoolers!) and after that my summer TOTALLY explodes. I won’t be on here much for the next few weeks. I’ll do my best to answer all your questions tonight, but they totally piled up on me since I’ve been busy preparing all week!
I’ll be traveling a lot, I’m not sure if I’ll be able to find someone to fill in for me and answer questions and make the picture-texts but I think you guys will survive with God’s Word and the Holy Spirit! Remember to turn to the Holy Spirit within you when you’re confused and feeling lonely :( He’s never left you, he’s very faithful! Turn up the worship music when life gets hardest ladies, that’s the way to really live!
I love you guys so much, pray for me if you think about me over the next few weeks!
praying for you love :) his word tends to be a great place to go when you’re confused. Even if it doesn’t answer your specific dating questions, it is a great comforter sometimes!
On September 3rd, 1995, the greatest thing named Roxanne Oduro was born (LOL I’M JOKING!! I’m not the greatest thing-Jesus is :D)
My testimony is not your typical person who never believed in god, then encountered him and became a christian. You see, I believed in god from a long time. But, I kept on doubting he was real and abandoning him and saying I was a “Christian”
Anyways, ever since I was born, I was brought up in church. So, I did believe in god. By the time I reached middle school, things took a turn for the worst. In grade 8, me and some of my friends who had the same faith as me were talking about people who go to more than one church service to be more “holy”. We were mostly making fun of them and one of my friends even said “god may not even be real.” After that conversation, I started having my doubts. Eventually by the end of grade 8 I realized god is real and he brought me through so much things in my life.
Then I entered into a new chapter of my life (And still stuck in there until next year >.<): High School. I still believed in god, but I was pretending to be a Christian. I would go to church every Sunday, yet I would never read the bible during the week, I’d hardly pray to god, and I would watch inappropriate stuff as well. I was following what my friends did. In grade 9 & 10, I’ve ditched god so many times I lost count. Then It was Easter 2011 and my church was putting on a Easter production. Me and my family went. At the end of the play, my pastor would come up on stage and ask anyone in the audience if they would like to give their life to Christ. People would raise their hand and then my pastor would pray for them and everyone would repeat the same prayer. I was one of those people who raised my hand. I realized that I needed Christ in my life. And I wanted to stop living like how I was-A lukewarm christian, and become a CHRISTIAN. Without Christ, I wouldn’t be here, and I would’t be able to do anything on my own. So, I accepted Jesus into my life once again. Then, two months later, on June 26, 2011, I got baptized! :D
By grade 11, I kinda fell back into the category of “Lukewarm Christian” You may be thinking “AGAIN? WHY??!!” Well, that’s because I did the same things I did when I was in grade 9 and 10. Then, I went to VNTG Conference 2012 in March at Lakemount Worship center in Grimbsy, ON. And that event changed my life. After coming back from the conference, I put my foot down and told myself “Roxanne, you need to stop being ACTING like you’re a christian and BE a christian. And so I did. I started going to my youth group on Fridays more often, and even joined my church’s Easter play “Heaven’s Gates, Hell’s Flames”.
I struggled to be a christian. Mostly because I was too lazy or I didn’t want to be judged by my friends or my classmates, thinking that I’m a Jesus-freak. But now, I really don’t care. This NOBODY can define me. Only GOD can. And it is worth living for god and serving him. As John 3:16 says that god so loved the world that he gave his one and only son so whoever believes in him won’t perish, but have everlasting life. I mean come on. How can you not love someone for doing this so that you won’t have to face eternity in hell, but in heaven? If that’s not love, then PLEASE show me what love really is. (Trying to come up with an explanation of what love is? Can’t think of one? Then your point is invalid XD)
As a christian, life is gonna get rough at times. But it’s worth it. In 2 Corinthians 4:16-17, it says: “Though outwarldy we are wearing out, inwardly we are renewed day by day. Our suffering is light and temporary and is producing for us an eternal glory that is greater than anything we can imagine.” Although we suffer because of our faith, we keep pressing on because the suffering won’t last for long. Rather, it will be a great reward when we get to live for eternity with God.
I’m glad that I gave my life to Christ. I’m not perfect, all humans are not perfect. Sometimes I’m gonna fail. Sometimes, I might run away from god. But I believe serving and obeying god is worth everything I may suffer through. But will it be worth it? YES!
Thanks for reading my testimony, and I hope that some of your were inspired by it.
God Bless!! :)
Sinner can go to heaven when they repent, believe that Jesus’s blood has washed them pure and live their life for Jesus!
Submit your testimonies! I’d love to see them, even if they’re short and even if you think yours isn’t exciting. Every testimony is something to praise God for!
If they haven’t sinned, they’re perfect and they’ll go to heaven.
The Bible says everyone has sinned (Romans 3:23), so that perfect person doesn’t exist. We’re not all God’s children, we’re all God’s creations. His Christians are his children. It’s not “sentenced to hell” it’s going where that person deserves. Everyone deserves hell, but accepting that Jesus paid for you sins and surrendering your life to him washes you clean from your impurities and you are able to be in his presence, or in other words, heaven.
Sorry, I may have missed something. I don’t see how that makes God hypocritical. You mean he says one thing and does another, as is the definition of a hypocrite right?
Mehhh I know I said I wasn’t going to post but then I actually ended up staying late to post butttt
Then my Internet went wacko and stopped working. So for everyone I promised an answer to, it won’t happen tonight :(
I’m on my phone right now so if you really need to talk shoot me an email at firstname.lastname@example.org or text/call me at 3025456921 or just save either of those for instant contact to me (since I tend to be somewhat busy and it takes a few days to get questions answered)
- Preach Jesus.
- Don’t Take Yourself Seriously.
- Speak Truthfully, Boldly, and Fervently.
- Preach Jesus With Your Life.
- Don’t Shy Away From “Taboo” Sins.
- Be Transparent.
- Lead In Repentance.
- Show God is After Our Joy, Not Our Buzzkill.
- Don’t Water Down Jesus’ Harsh Sayings.
- Preach And Articulate Real, Biblical, Transforming Grace.
I am definitely praying!
Especially now that it’s summer and school is out, you should find medical help. Seriously love, you know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit and you’re the bride of Jesus. You’re loved with a never-ending, all-consuming love. Let it wash over you and knock you off your feet.
Jesus I break the chains off of your beloved in your name! I pray healing over her life and restoration. You are the King of made-news, so make new! Bring peace, joy, happiness, and confidence into her life. You are our passion and desire, be glorified in your bride’s life. Bring yourself back to the center of all she knows <3
Whoa apparently you sent this a long time ago. I think my tumblr must be glitching out because I think mine eats more messages than normal…
Okay well hey I love answering this question!
What does it look like?
It looks like a Job 29 man. It looks like a Proverbs 31 woman.
It looks like love, mercy, wisdom, grace, and power.
It looks like the fruit of the Spirit, love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self control!
It looks like compassion for the weak. It looks like love for everyone. It looks like sacrifice, endurance, and selflessness.
It looks like drawing on Jesus every day for strength, desiring him with your entire heart. Having a passion for him that effects every single thing you do. It looks like spending as much time with him as possible.
It looks like running away from temptation, fighting the devil with Scripture, rejoicing through tribulations, and living life to the fullest.
It looks like thanking God for every blessing, and every blessing in disguise.
It looks like Jesus :)
As much as I know this answer totally sucks, I have no advice for convincing a non-Christian to follow Christian morals. I know that sexual sin has massive repercussions, but if she won’t listen to you then she’s not going to. You can pray that she makes the right decision, but you can’t back it up with Bible verses or anything because she doesn’t have to follow God’s morals.
If anyone has anything to say about this, send me a message! Please :)
1. You give your heart to Jesus and you start living for him. The end.
2. If you want to be elect, you are elect. The end.
3. Yes oh man I doubt God all the time. It’s part of being human, I do my best not to but I do. I cry out to Jesus and ask for more faith when I do doubt him!
4. Yes there are many many many many times where I feel like my situation is hopeless. That’s when I crack open my Bible.
5. If you want it, then it’s happened. The Holy Spirit has drawn you, Jesus is showing you his abundant grace! You desire to be his, and that’s all it takes. Ask God for faith, cry out to Jesus for a trusting heart. It’s okay because it’s not easy for anyone, but it gets better. You’re never without hope, you’ve always got the Holy Spirit (and the rest of the trinity :P) on your side.
Start reading the four gospels! Matthew, Mark, Luke, John. You say you want to be one of his sheep? Easy peasy. Tell him! Surrender your life. You don’t have to have tons of faith and trust when you make that decision, those come with more time spent in his word and more time spent in his presence. If you’re waiting until you’re perfect to become a Christian, it’s never going to happen.
Basically, the next step for you should be to pray to God some kind of “sinner’s prayer”. That’s just a term I’m using to refer to the prayer that shows you’re going to officially lay your sins down at the alter and be washed by the blood of Jesus.
Jesus, thank you for bringing me to this place of surrender and desire for your heart. I accept the gift of salvation that you’ve given me. I believe that you came to earth, lived a perfect life, and died on the cross to pay the price of death so that I didn’t have to. I know that you’ve atoned for my sins and I have been redeemed. I want to be with you forever, take my life - have it all. I give you lordship in my life! Amen!
And, if you decide to take that step tonight (I’m praying you do!), may I be the first to say welcome home :’). There is rejoicing in heaven when a sinner repents, throw yourself a party. Tell your friends, eat some pretzels and rejoice! (Luke 15:10)
just be super duper loving to him! Make him a jaarrrr! Man I love those verses jars!
Be thoughtful, buy him coffee in the morning and be careful not to be snippy.
MOST IMPORTANTLY cry out to Jesus! Break the spirit of depression off him! Lift him up in prayer!
Love it! You rock girl, thanks for your testimony!
Hi guys! Crazy day today, canceled beach trip… new phone… broken down car…
Tomorrow I’ll be at the beach (woo!) and sunday is a crazy busy day! but i’ll have a wonderful surprise for you guys hopefully by Monday, till then… no posts unless there’s an emergency :(
Thanks for understanding! Loooove you guys to death!
For Mars Hill’s Real Marriage sermon “The Porn Path,” we flew up Crissy, a former porn star who’s since become a Christian, as a special guest to be interviewed in a Q&A with Pastor Mark and Grace as part of the sermon. After the event, I chauffered Crissy and her friend to the airport to catch their flight home to LA. Due to the severe snowstorm that hit Seattle this winter, her friend was able to get on a last-minute flight, but Crissy missed her flight altogether. This meant that I ended up spending a few more hours with her. Little did I know that my time with her would be life-changing.
As we waited to be sure her friend’s flight successfully took off, Crissy began to share her story, much of which she did not tell at the event. Her words brought all that I had learned about the effects of porn to a completely different level. It suddenly became very real. There was a real face behind the facts, a real voice behind the statistics.
I took away three major things from our conversation that will forever remain with me.1. Women Are Extra-Special
1 Peter 3:7 tells men, “Likewise, husbands, live with your wives in an understanding way, showing honor to the woman as the weaker vessel, since they are heirs with you of the grace of life, so that your prayers may not be hindered.”
When I read the words “weaker vessel,” I don’t see it as saying women are the weaker sex or unequal to men, but rather that women are extra-special, especially your wife.
Crissy’s story helped me to see that being a man means treating women (and in the future, my wife) with extra special care, love, and respect. I am to treat them as I would the most delicate vessel in my pottery collection—not because it is prone to break, but because it is invaluable.2. Porn Is Real
I know firsthand how addicting porn can be. During my college years, I was serving the church and watching porn. I was leading worship and watching porn. I was a leader in the church and watching porn. It was a love-hate relationship. No professing Christian, after watching porn says, “I’m glad I did that.” We know it is wrong by conviction from the Holy Spirit and regret it after the fact—but we keep going back.
If you’re looking at porn, know this: real people are involved and real damage is done. When you watch porn, you are supporting and encouraging the sexual, emotional, psychological, and physical abuse of real women, not just actors.
Talking with Crissy, my disgust over my history of watching porn and my gratitude to Jesus for redeeming me from that horrid habit simultaneously reached new highs. I wish every guy could sit down with Crissy for five minutes and just talk to her. If that doesn’t convict him, I don’t know what will.3. Jesus Can Redeem Anyone’s Story
What stood out the most to me as Crissy shared—despite all that she had been through over the years with guys (not men) treating her as a commodity rather than a person and disrespecting her entirely—was that she told her story with a smile on her face.
Crissy knows without a doubt that her past does not define her—Jesus does. She knows that in Christ, she is righteous and spotless without blemish. She has hope for the future because of Jesus. She knows that Jesus is using her past to redeem others in the present. She now works for a non-profit organization called Treasures, which aims to reach out to women in the sex industry with the message that they are loved, valued, and purposed by Christ.
For those of you struggling with porn, know this:
Jesus really can and will redeem anyone’s story.
By Frank Park
That really stinks girlfriend :(
I’m not sure what you want me to tell you though. Remember that God placed friends in your life for a reason! His word is your greatest comfort :)
1. Schoolwork 2. Sporting pressure 3. Anxiety. To overcome them? Please… God had already overcome them :)
hahaha i LOVED that. You made my night!
Unsaved friends, work, and the future. I try to be a light for Christ for everyone, but it’s hard sometimes. And I trust God’s plan for me!
Good answer haha!
turn to Jesus to find strength, especially when it’s a work for his glory (being a light to everyone and unsaved plans = gloooorryyy)
school, parents, the pressure to be perfect. I’m still working on the second part…
thanks for the honesty love <3
I think these are my top three too. You can’t disappoint Jesus!
a-almodovar answered your question: What are the three biggest stress sources in your life?
my family…the things they expect from me and all the pressures i have to make them proud
I know what you mean :( I feel the same way. Remember that your heavenly Father will never be disappointed.
What do you say to overcome them?
Ah I hate saying this, but you shouldn’t be hanging out with him then. It doesn’t sound like he’s grown up enough to understand the breakdown of the whole thing so I’d just leave it alone.
Bring it to Jesus! Ask him :)
Well first thing I’d like to say is you are not alone!
Not only is God on your side, and SO happy that you’re coming back (Luke 15:10), but many many people go through the same period during high school and whatnot. There’s always going to be people who understand you, and you’ve got Jesus!
Everyone is too weak to cross that gap alone. Everyone. We all need the Holy Spirit carrying us. Don’t be discouraged, Jesus bridges that chasm! It takes time lovie :)
The best thing for you right now are books that just talk about basic Christianity. Mere Christianity by CS Lewis is a great place to start. So is Explicit Gospel by Matt Chandler. Definitely read those two, and if you want more then you should check out any of Mark Driscoll’s books and Living With Questions by Dale Fincher :)
welcome home <3
Okay sorry guys I’m VERY sorry that as a normal, human girl I’ve made a small mistake.
When someone asked me the question “will you go to heaven if you commit suicide” I misread the question and thought I was asked “will you go to hell if you commit suicide”. My answer was “nope” where I meant “yes”, because I meant no you will not go to hell if you commit suicide, but yes you will go to heaven if you commit suicide. But if you continued on and read my response, you would have seen that i did mean you WILL go to heaven if you commit suicide. If I’ve confused you, just go back to the post, since I corrected myself. It will make sense then :)
I am SO sorry for any distress I’ve caused you guys. I really am so sorry, I can’t even begin to explain. I hope that you guys stuck it through the post long enough to realize what I really meant. I am not trying to judge who makes it to heaven and who doesn’t, I was merely presenting what the Bible said about it and I made a little mistake.
I would like to remind you, though, of the verse 1 John 4:20 “If anyone says, “I love God,” and hates his brother, he is a liar; for he who does not love his brother whom he has seen cannotlove God whom he has not seen.”
I did make a mistake, but lashing out in anger and harsh words is totally unbiblical. Please ladies, I urge you to find patience and love through Jesus next time you want to get mad at someone on tumblr! Please know that I’m still learning and I will make mistakes. If you disagree with me on anything, message me privately and talk with me lovingly. I really respect your opinion, and my theology has been shifted because of great messages I’ve gotten from this page. I’ll be open to learning and correcting myself if you’re open to being patient and kind with me.Check out Matthew 18:15-17 :)
“If your brother sins against you, go and tell him his fault, between you and him alone. If he listens to you, you have gained your brother. But if he does not listen, take one or two others along with you, that every charge may be established by the evidence of two or three witnesses. If he refuses to listen to them, tell it to the church. And if he refuses to listen even to the church, let him be to you as a Gentile and a tax collector.
ONCE AGAIN I apologize for any misunderstandings. If there are any problems, shoot us a message, but please please, be nice. I do have emotions and I am not bulletproof. Name calling and accusations are immature, unbiblical, unnecessary, and rude.
Thanks everyone, have a wonderful day!
The Bible is not a package of bandaids. You cannot apply it by picking and choosing which scripture goes where in your life.
The Bible is Extreme Makeover: Heart, Soul, Body and Mind Edition. It is the living and active Word of God that has no room for the lukewarm. It is sharper than any two-edged sword. It pierces to the division of soul and of spirit, of joints and of marrow, discerning the thoughts and intentions of the heart.
The Bible is not a package of bandaids.
Yeah there’s something immensely comforting knowing that you’re not alone in these embarrassing struggles, isn’t there?
Hm I’d firstly recommend the Bible ;D
No seriously, read Romans, Hebrews, James, and the four gospels. You’ll be surprised how much the Bible helps (especially these seven books) when you’re lacking faith. It doesn’t seem like it would because.. well you’re lacking faith in that moment.. but trust me on this one!
Other books I’d recommend… uh, well, there’s Crazy Love by Francis Chan and the Explicit Gospel by Matt Chandler. They’re both pretty much just the gospel, but there’s something about hearing the gospel the way that those two men write it that really builds my faith. I’m sitting there the whole time going, “Yes! Yes! Okay God you’ve saved me, I’ll give you my everything!”
Mere Christianity is kind of a book about being a Christian, and most of being a Christian is having faith and trusting Jesus, so Mere Christianity will be really awesome for you as well!
I recommend these books for the same reason I recommend reading the Bible. It’s really important to solidify the foundations of the gospel and the salvation process. A lot of faith comes from having a serious and strong foundation, so to keep building on that foundation will only make your trust grow stronger and stronger!
Remember to pray ;)
I think trust and faith are part of being saved, and reading a book that extends and walks you through the salvation process just re-solidifies those aspects of your Christian walk. If anyone else has any suggestions, please please tell me! Thanks guys!
Good question, by the way, I like that you want to read books that help you build your faith!
oh my love it is IMPOSSIBLE to fall too many times. He will pick you up every single time. He has not left you. He will never leave you.
Seriously, your God will NEVER leave you. Jesus didn’t die for some of your sins, he died for all of them. He has redeemed you and you are redeemed. You have a new identity and you’re washed in the blood of Jesus that was spilled for you out of his love. You are eternally loved by the God of the universe, nothing can change that. Here are some verses to back me up :) Keep these handy, I have them saved as a file on my computer, and open it when you feel hopeless!
To think that your sins are greater than the power of Jesus’s beautiful, redeeming, eternal sacrifice is a ridiculous thought. You cannot entertain those kinds of ideas. Here’s my prayer to all you girls tonight who are struggling with the idea that God has not forgiven all your sins!
Jesus I come to you as a daughter of the King and I thank you for your redeeming power. Thank you that you are powerful and glorious and holy but you still chose us and desire us. I pray that we never ever forget that your sacrifice for us was sufficient and eternal. Thank you that you look at our hearts and not our actions. Thank you that because we are loved and redeemed by you, it doesn’t matter how many times we fall, you will pick us back up. Remind us right now, Jesus speak to us about your endless love. Show us how you see us, redefine the way that we see the gospel. Forgive us for attempting to belittle your saving powers and bring us back into your graceful light. Thank you that you reign over everything, over all the earth and everything on it, but you chose fellowship with us. We are undeserving, but we’ve been given grace anyway. Continue to bless our faith, and show us the power of your gospel anew every. single. day. Jesus, your power is unending, and if you chose to save us, then you will save us forever and ever. Amen.
He is listening. Christianity isn’t about feelings, just because you feel like he’s not listening doesn’t mean that he isn’t. He sees your heart and he sees that you desire purity and that’s all he needs to see. You want to be done with your sin and you’re trying your best and that’s what Jesus wants to see. Remember? God looks at the heart. (1 Samuel 16:7)
Keep going lovie!
1. How can I stop doubting? The Bible. I find that I often doubt Jesus and the Holy Spirit within me but the Bible is a solid place for me to find peace from my doubt. Read anywhere. Proverbs, Isaiah, Luke… Another thing that will help is writing (yes, handwriting!) your emotions and doubts on paper. My doubt tends to scramble my thoughts, I question what’s real and what’s lies. Feeling myself writing these doubts down and seeing the colored ink on the paper in my handwriting tends to snap me out of my doubt. So does rereading my prayer journal(s). It brings me back to the time and place when I wrote those things and I can feel the way I felt at that moment once again.
2. How can I start trusting more? Faith, trust, belief…. it all comes from Jesus. Ask him for more faith, peace, trust. You can get faith from him!
3. How can I not doubt after I pray? If you mean how can I believe that Jesus is going to answer my prayers, you should go back to the Bible and soak in his word. He tends to answer through the Bible, so it’s a great place to turn to. Once again, write out your prayers in a list. Every. Single. Little. Prayer. For like two days. Then go back in every night for a week and see how God has answered your prayers! Remember that his answer won’t always be yes, but he always answers.
I’m so glad to hear that you want to live for Jesus! Remember that God looks at your heart, and your heart desires faith. It’s okay that you don’t have this thing figured out yet. I understand that it’s not easy, but you’re not alone. Don’t worry about what your friends think, you’re just doing your best and trying to work through this!
For everything else I’ve written about doubt, go here :)
Seriously though, when you begin a question with, “Will I go to heaven if…” you should stop and ask yourself two things:
1. Can I lose my salvation?
2. Why do I want to know?
That’s important because you can’t lose your salvation, the only way that’s possible is if you blaspheme the Holy Spirit (or in other words, you say that something the Holy Spirit did was actually from Satan, which Christians are unable to do. Read more here). You are saved, loved, healed. You may run away, but God will always bring you back because you are His lamb and no one can snatch you away (John 10:26-30)
Now the second question is important because when you ask yourself, “Will I go to heaven if…” why are you asking? See, the end of that question tends to be something royally impulsive. That question brings on a whole new attitude of salvation, making salvation seem like something that banks on you. Which is doesn’t. You’re so incredibly impassive in the entire process of being washed clean from your sin. The only thing you’ve done is have sin that needs forgiveness. You want to know whether or not this thing will keep you from heaven because you’re afraid there actually is a thing, which there isn’t. Just because you can’t lose your salvation doesn’t mean it’s appropriate to do such a thing. If you’re thinking you might lose your salvation over something (which you can’t, seriously.) then you may want to rethink doing whatever you were planning on doing.
Sometimes I think these kinds of questions flow through our head because we want to get permission to do it. Sometimes I think we’re just curious. If you’re thinking about committing suicide, please sister, tell an adult. Call the suicide hotline, 800.273.8255 if you live in America (I know there are hotlines in every country, I just don’t know the number). This isn’t a light matter. I know that suicide has had an intense impact on me and my family, you are worth so much, please don’t forget that.
let go of it without some divine intervention because I’ve been so deeply hurt over it. It’s been almost 6 months and I still break down crying sometimes. It ruined my friendship with several other people and it’s completely consumed my life. I hate myself for it too. Basically, I’m messed up. I don’t know what to do. Prayer would help haha : P
I’ve been praying for you since I got this! Hopefully you’ve felt my prayers. I am so sorry, it broke my heart to hear about you and you friend. I really am, there’s so much pain in losing a friend. Pray pray pray pray! There’s a lot of wisdom to be found in the Bible. When I’m having issues with people, I like to open up the sermon on the mount. It just reminds me of basic things that I should be doing. Proverbs can be a comfort when you’re confused as anything.
It’s important, but it is hard to forgive people who keep offending you. Remember that the gospel is forgiveness. That’s what makes it incredible. If we want to live the gospel out in our lives, you need to forgive. I know it’s extra hard when he won’t forgive you, and he continues to hurt you, but you aren’t alone. Jesus is still with you and he’s never going to stop. This is something he wants you to do and he’s not going to leave you.
By the way, that’s a great song - perfect for your sitch, eh?
This is my new favorite thing to suggest to people, it’s so helpful! Make a jar and drop in Bible verses about forgiveness. When you’re like so super duper mad and all you want to do is throw up your hands and cry, run to your jar and read a verse or two. Pull out your Bible. This is how you win. You fight the anger and the grudge with your Bible!
And hey girlfriend, sit and cry. That’s okay. I seriously cry all the time, you can ask my friends! It’s okay to feel overwhelmed. It’s okay to sit on your bed and punch your pillow, it’s okay to take out a pen and write an angry letter in your journal. It’s okay to be frustrated. You are not supposed to be the toughest of the tough or the hardest of the rocks. You’re allowed to be sad about this. You’re allowed to yell. I promise that God can handle your frustration!
The song she quoted by Tenth Avenue North is called Losing, and it’s such a great song. I turn it on when I have to remember to forgive!
Some verses for your jar, I really think you should look these up yourself but I’ll throw some out here now. Highlight them in your Bible too :)
Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you.
Bearing with one another and, if one has a complaint against another, forgiving each other; as the Lord has forgiven you, so you also must forgive.
Pay attention to yourselves! If your brother sins, rebuke him, and if he repents, forgive him, and if he sins against you seven times in the day, and turns to you seven times, saying, ‘I repent,’ you must forgive him.”
Put on then, as God’s chosen ones, holy and beloved, compassionate hearts, kindness, humility, meekness, and patience, bearing with one another and, if one has a complaint against another, forgiving each other; as the Lord has forgiven you, so you also must forgive.
“Judge not, and you will not be judged; condemn not, and you will not be condemned; forgive, and you will be forgiven;
And whenever you stand praying, forgive, if you have anything against anyone, so that your Father also who is in heaven may forgive you your trespasses.”
Then Peter came up and said to him, “Lord, how often will my brother sin against me, and I forgive him? As many as seven times?” Jesus said to him, “I do not say to you seven times, but seventy times seven. “Therefore the kingdom of heaven may be compared to a king who wished to settle accounts with his servants. When he began to settle, one was brought to him who owed him ten thousand talents. And since he could not pay, his master ordered him to be sold, with his wife and children and all that he had, and payment to be made. …
Be angry and do not sin; do not let the sun go down on your anger,
“But I say to you who hear, Love your enemies, do good to those who hate you,
Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding
Pray pray pray pray pray pray pray! Your Bible and your prayer journal are your two biggest weapons here! :)
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Wow thank you! This really made me happy!
and I actually just love you tooo!
and here’s a supernatural gif that accurately represents my feelings for you:
Stay blessed lovie!
I’ve gotten a lot of messages recently on girls struggling with sexual things like this. I haven’t brought myself to answer most of them because I don’t think I’m qualified to be guiding anyone else when it comes to this stuff. See I’m at a loss here too. But my God is so much bigger than lust.
I admitted it in church today when I was discussing with some friends. See I think this whole lust thing is the hardest because I go from one state of mind to a completely different state of mine in a split second. Once I’m in that lustful state, I don’t want to leave it! Now what?!?
Well something in me says no. That’s the Holy Spirit. And he says fight back. So I do. And I fight the thoughts and the temptations, and I hate them. And I keep hating those thoughts. And I crawl back, no matter how hard, to the state of mind I was in before. The clean one. And I talk to Jesus. I ask for grace. I worship him and I just think about his loyalty.
Jesus, I can’t do this anymore. I need you. I need your grace. I don’t have the strength to fight this one anymore. I just want to give in. You are worth the fight, though. And I will keep fighting. And I will try and try to stay pure and I will remember you. I remember your promises. You’re here, you’re near. You haven’t left, you won’t leave. You were faithful to Moses, Noah, David, Deborah, Esther, Paul, Timothy, Jonah, John, Ruth… You are faithful. You are loving. I am your beloved, your bride.
What do I do? I start worshipping him. That’s the only thing I’ve found that works. When I start lusting, when I’m tempted, when I not only stumble but completely wipe out, I look up and I worship. Because when I look up and begin to sing his praises, those problems down here are so much smaller. My God is so much bigger than lust.
Look at your God! Look at my God! Look what he does!
He’s full of mercy, he forgives the murderers, the adulterers, the cheaters, the hypocrites, the ignorant, the hateful, the lustful.
He’s so powerful! With his words he actually brought things into existence. There wasn’t anything there before, but look what’s there now!
My God is full grace. He helps even the worst of us. He strengthens me. He holds me when I cry (which is pretty much more often than I speak) and he gives me the courage to stand. When I can’t, he carries me.
And he’s not just going to stop. No, he’s put so much effort into me. So much time. He’s held me, shaped me, comforted me, taught me, and he’s not giving up now. My Jesus is with me through the thick and thin and he’s not going to leave me now because I’m struggling with lust. He’s whispering in my ear all day. He’s reminding me that my eyes need to be locked with his. He asks me to turn fully to him and to hold his gaze. You can’t entertain lust when your eyes are locked to Heaven. Jesus and lust can’t be in your mind at the same time.
And you know what? This gets easier. The longer you go without it, the less it pulls at you. It won’t alway be this hard, but it is hard right now and I understand that. Remember that Jesus has never left you, he’s done so much for you, and he’s not stopping yet.
We can do this. You, me, all the other girls who struggle with it, and Jesus. You do have me, you do have Jesus, and ladies please, send messages (anon or not!) supporting my anonymous friend here (and the many other messages we get about this!). I believe in you, you can persevere!
Now, practical advice-wise, you should download some kind of safe-internet browsing thing. I’m sure they have official names but I don’t know them. I hear that xxxchurch.com is one of the best places for this kind of software (the firewall I bought for my laptop came with excellent “parental” controls - in quotes because I’m the one who set them! I’ve never used the website before but my trusty sources say “muy bueno!”)
Make a jar (here’s
mine!) and drop Bible verses in there. When you need help and you’re about to give in, run to your jar and read a verse that will remind you to set your eyes on heavenly things. I think you should look most of these up yourself, but there’s an awesome source here. (technically that was a picture of the “judge-jar” that my sister and I drop money in when we’re rude. The idea is that it can be cute and I had fun making the jar, I was excited to cut down on the rude talk in my house!)
I urge you (like I say in almost everything I post!) to find a Mother-in-Christ (hehe) or in other words, an older, wiser woman in your church or an aunt or something who can guide you. Someone you can totally trust. Tell an adult. Ask for help. She’ll be understanding. Let the Holy Spirit guide you to right woman and let her help you. Let her keep you accountable. Maybe you’ll have to give her a weekly report, and if that’s what it takes for this struggle to be behind you then that’s what needs to happen. Don’t stop. Don’t give up. Don’t slow down.
you can do this
Jesus is with you
you are never alone
you will never be alone
I am praying for anyone who has sent me messages about this, I’ve been praying passionately from the moment I got them.
if you need anyone to talk to, add me on Facebook!
Ah if you haven’t noticed, I’m just going to go back to answering all the questions here on THIS page for now. It’s easier for me (loads) and it makes more sense to keep it all in one page, so you guys can search the tags and whatnot.
Ah an excellent verse to bring up for this question, I would have mentioned it myself :)
No. No one is moral enough to make it into heaven on their own (Romans 3:23). See if you mess up ONE time, if you lie ONCE, you disobey your mom ONCE, you lust ONE TIME then you’re out. You’re officially not holy anymore. You can’t be in God’s presence (AKA “with the Father”, AKA in Heaven) if you aren’t 100% pure and holy. So if you manage to live a PERFECT life, then you don’t need Jesus. But the Bible says that’s not possible (for ALL have sinned - Rom 3:23). You cannot go to heaven without Jesus, who died to make us pure and to take away the sins of the world (John 1:29. Also, I explained the whole sacrifice/heaven/hell/Old Testament/New Testament shebang here).
What that verse means is that the only way we become pure (go read that post I told you to read!) is through Jesus. He washes our sins away (Psalm 51:2). The only way that I can live in Heaven forever is because I am pure through Jesus. Heaven is about being with “The Father” forever, and sin cannot be around the Father. If I am dirty with sin, I can’t be around him. “The Father” is talking about the Father’s presence (once again - Heaven) which is where we are finally full and happy and content and we may worship him forever!
Really the gospel is so gracious, so beautiful, so passionate… I just love explaining the goodness of grace to people :)
You say you’re interested in Christianity? Would you like to explain what you mean by that? I really encourage you to find a local youth group and talk to to youth leader or pastor, and don’t put it off!